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If you've every taken a moment to look at marriage statistics and the lives of those around us it tells us that marriages need help and lots of it! 

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Ordination of Atlanta Teen Called to Preach at Age 5 Sparks Debate About 'Needing a Degree to Preach God's Word'

By Nicola Menzie , Christian Post Reporter

Jared Sawyer Jr., a 16-year-old from Atlanta, Ga., who has been preaching for more than half of his life, was ordained as an associate minister at his Baptist church over the weekend and among supporters on Facebook offering him praise were others concerned about his lack of formal theological training.

"I like his ambition but he really should get a seminary degree first or study Theology....too many incompetent self-proclaimed pastors here," wrote Marion Morris on WSB-TV's Facebook page featuring video coverage of Sawyer's ordination. The news item had about 5,700 "likes" and more than a thousand shares, and the on-going about debate about Sawyer's ordination has led to hundreds of comments.

"You do not need a 'degree' to preach God's word. When He (God) calls and we answer, the only documents we need comes from the word of God, not a seminary," wrote Dennis Bates, who made frequent comments on the social network in defense of Sawyer.

The Atlanta teen, who has been helming his own ministry for six years (Jared Sawyer, Jr. Ministries), was ordained by leaders at Center Hill Baptist Church in northwest Atlanta on Sunday, in a moment his mother, Sabrina Sawyer, said she never thought would have been realized.

"I never would have thought the end of this would be happening," said Sawyer's mother. "I'm grateful that I'm alive to see my son do something he's always said that he was called to do."

His mother says minister Sawyer started praising God at age 2, started reading the Bible at age 3 and was baptized at age 5, the same time he told her he wanted to be a preacher.

"I'm very grateful to be in this particular position," the young minister told WSB-TV. "I'm very grateful to be called by God to be in this position because I could be doing something else."
"What I've been doing for the past 10 years of me preaching is definitely right, and it's what God has called me to do," Sawyer added.

The teen, who has his sights set on Morehouse College, reportedly plans to study Theology and Religious Studies when the time comes.

Critics, however, insist Sawyer should have received theological training before being placed in the pulpit, where he once preached at the age of 11 on the sermon subject, "Even Though I Am Young Send Me."

"Too many self-proclaimed pastors don't have sufficient knowledge of the Scriptures," added Marion Morris, countering a commenter who suggested that "the education of man is not what guides us as leaders in the word of God."

"Educational theological background is necessary to teach and preach," Morris continued. "While the young man's interest in becoming a minister is commendable, he needs to understand that a 'calling' doesn't make one a good pastor."

There were others who responded to news of Sawyer's ordination by suggesting that he could be a "great preacher" with or without a seminary degree.

"A few here have said he needs to study Theology or go to seminary school," wrote Andrew Mckinney. "I agree and disagree. I have known many preachers (great preachers) who didn't go to school to be a minister and preached the Word like it is supposed to be preached. Now, if he chooses to go to seminary....great for him...nothing wrong with that."

Despite the debate over whether he might have put the cart before the horse, Sawyer thanked supporters online for their well-wishes.

"Today was a life changing event. So much love. So much support," the teen minister wrote on his Facebook page. "New level in my ministry. Ordained Minister! God bless all those who have blessed me for 16 years and in my ministry for 11 years!"

Sawyer, who published last summer I Belong to God: Staying On the Christian Path to Success, stands among several other young men who say they have been called to preach or pastor. Last year, 19-year-old Courtney Meadows, who has been preaching since he was 6 years old, was installed as pastor of First Missionary Baptist Church in White Hall, Ala. The youngest ordained minister in the U.S., Ezekiel Stoddard, is just 12 years old and hails from his parents' independent Fullness of Time Church in Capitol Heights, Md.

 

Is Animal Planet Trying to Create Its Own 'Duck Dynasty'?

Animal Planet's own wilderness-loving, gun-toting, God-fearing family will be hitting cable reality television this spring.

A six-episode series, "Alaska Bush Family," will center around the Brown family, Ami and Billy, and their nine children who live in rural Alaska.

The Browns, who live in relative isolation in the nation's largest state, moved to Alaska after a series of events that began with Billy's parents dying when he was just 16. After he met Ami, the couple traveled around the lower 48 states before discovering Alaska.

"When Alaska opened up to us it was like a readymade home to us," Billy told the Television Critics Assocation winter press tour on Thursday.

"Our family is doing what is natural for human beings to do. We survive on what we hunt, fish, trap and barter for," he added.

The couple's youngest daughter, Rainy, 11, said that she loves the "freedom" that the woods offers her.

"There's not never-ending concrete. It's trees. It's free. You can do whatever you want," she said.
Her mother agrees. "We figured out we didn't need modern society... we could live off the ocean and the forest," said Ami.

The Browns were discovered through Billy's writing - work that he did as part of his and his wife's homeschooling of their children. After one of his sons uploaded one of his stories online, producers found it and reached out to the family.

Gabe, 24, said that viewers may be surprised with how the family lives.
"It's not like we're backwards or cavemen even though our lifestyle can be quite primitive," he said.
But the rugged outdoor conditions have had little impact on the family's ability to bond with one another.

"Our family is a lot like a wolf pack or a clan 'cause we stick together. We're like the three musketeers, actually. It's all for one and one for all," Bear, 26, said.

What does Billy hope viewers will take away from the show?

"God and family values. Not putting anybody down, [but] I think it's something we're losing today," he said.

"We spent 30 years of our life trying to stay as far away as we could from this stuff and people," Brown added. "[But] we think it's cool to show people how we live."

Christian Post ReporterGay marriages in California can continue ruled the state's Supreme Court on Wednesday. The brief ruling all but ended the bid by traditional marriage supporters to make a state majority vote of more than 7 million voters nearly 5 years ago to ban same-sex marriage stick.

 By Alex Murashko, Christian Post Reporter

The high court unanimously tossed out a legal challenge by supporters of Proposition 8, denying the petition to uphold the state's voter-approved marriage amendment.
A legal defense team says the decision coming in the court's brief ruling means supporters of Prop 8 will have to wait for a new set of elected officials who back their view.

"Elected officials should enforce the law. Though the current California officials are unwilling to enforce the state constitution, we remain hopeful that one day Californians will elect officials who will," said Alliance Defending Freedom Senior Counsel Austin R. Nimocks.
"It is unfortunate that the California Supreme Court chose not to decide the important, still-unresolved questions about the enforcement of Proposition 8, the law of the land in California," Nimocks said. "Regrettably, an executive branch that has turned a blind eye to the enforcement of its state's constitution has silenced more than 7 million Californians who clearly expressed their views about marriage. The court's decision today, however, does not end the debate about marriage in California."

A trial judge's 2010 order striking down the ballot measure as unconstitutional was supported by a U.S. Supreme Court ruling in June. On June 28, county clerks began issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples under orders by Gov. Jerry Brown.
Traditional marriage supporters requested that the state Supreme Court stop the weddings, saying that the federal court action was meant to be applied narrowly and only to the two couples who filed the federal lawsuit challenging the ban.
Legal arguments made by Prop 8 supporters were not addressed by the state Supreme Court.

Prop. 8 was passed by 52 percent of California voters in November 2008, months after the California Supreme Court had legalized same-sex marriage in May that year. The state's high court upheld the amendment but did not void same-sex marriages that occurred between its 2008 ruling and the passage of Prop. 8.
As of now, 13 U.S. states and the District of Columbia have legalized gay marriage.

"I know it would be wrong to stay married for the sake of my children."

By Joe Beam, CP Guest Columnist

"Really? Who told you that?"
 "Several of my friends."
 "I don't mean to sound offensive, but what makes them experts on the matter?"
She stared at me for a few moments. I think she was trying to decide if I were a jerk, or if I had a point worth considering. Finally she spoke. Her advice from "several friends" mostly came from one.
"Linda tells me the best thing she ever did was divorce Tom. Says I should divorce Bill so I can be happy."
"Do you think Linda's kids feel the same way about her divorcing their Dad?"
"I don't know."
"I assume the kids live with her. Do you think either Tom or their children hurt because he now plays a more limited role in their lives?"
She shifted uncomfortably. "I don't know, but that really doesn't matter, does it? If Linda is happy, then it was the best choice for her."
"And now she wants you to make the same choice for yourself. Think there's any possibility that her encouraging you to divorce Bill could somehow validate in her own conscience her decision to divorce Tom?"
"Why would you ask a mean question like that?"
"I witness many people encouraging others to end their marriages so that they might find some kind of belated justification to their own divorces.
"You say she's happy. Maybe. Does she ever talk about how tough it is to raise kids alone? She ever complain about trying to have a social life while attempting to be both Mom and Dad?

"And did you really mean it when you said it doesn't matter how it affects Tom or the kids as long as Linda is happy? Do you really think it does not matter if her kids ache because their Mom and Dad aren't together? Think they may pray at night that God will make their parents fall in love again and remarry? Think it might matter to them?
"Rather than listening to Linda, I suggest you seek wisdom from qualified people before deciding that staying together for the children is wrong. Wouldn't it make more sense to talk to someone who absolutely has no personal agenda? Someone objective?"
I based the story above on many discussions. Our culture seems to think that one should not consider his or her children's emotions or desires when contemplating divorce. Instead, one should consider his or her own emotions and desires. Some believe that the children will be better off if the parent is happy, even if they suffer for a while because of their parents' divorce.

Could Divorce Benefit Children?
When children are in danger sexually, physically, emotionally, or otherwise, divorce removes them from the presence and primary influence of the person hurting them. The same applies if the harm is directed at the other spouse rather than the children. Separation or divorce in situations such as those should occur, in my opinion.
However, reasons such as those vary drastically from, "I want to be happy, and so the kids will just have to adjust to the divorce."

Please do not think that I want people to be miserable. When a marriage is difficult, I urge people to seek help to repair that relationship and make it good. People should demand respect, civility, affection, and all the other attributes a marriage should have. If a marriage is bad, a person should stand up to the situation and demand that they deal with their problems.

However, much more often it occurs as Linda in our story recommends. "If you are not happy, divorce your spouse and move on to whatever might be next. Do not let your children deter your decision. They may hurt for a while, but they will adapt eventually; therefore, do what makes you happy now and let things work out for the kids later."
Though Linda says it is wrong to stay in a marriage for the sake of the kids, from my experience working with thousands of couples, I state unequivocally that it is wrong to divorce without first considering your children.

Consider the Children's Present
Children sometimes desire things that are bad for them. We understand the confused emotions of a child who begs to stay with a sexually abusive parent. The child abhors the abuse but loves the parent and fears being without him. As much as it breaks our hearts to witness the child's pain, we know that we must remove the parent's opportunities to hurt the child. We think of the child's welfare. We do not allow their emotions to deter us from protecting them.

However, that is much different from diminishing the importance of a child's emotions because they conflict with what we desire.
If those considering divorce allowed themselves to empathize with the pain in the hearts of their children, and their agony poured out in supplication to God as night after night they beg Him to make their parents love each other again, how could they not seek ways to repair rather than end their marriages?

Children did not ask their parents to bring them into the world. Therefore, it is not the children who owe the parents. Parents brought their children into this world. That means the parents have responsibilities and obligations to their children.
Every day our organization works with people whose marriages are in crisis. We hear the stories – infidelity, control, selfishness, and much more. When we hear of abuse or fear, we encourage people to get themselves and their children to safety. However, most stories involve behaviors that are not dangerous, though destructive to relationships. Behaviors that can change if either or both is willing to stop the things they should not do and start the things they should to make love take root again. Sometimes one spouse hurt the other deeply and must find the path to forgiveness. The hurt partner decides whether to forgive, and, if they are willing to do so, to learn how to reconcile their relationship. We witness the pain, frustration, and anger. Yet, since 1999 we have witnessed thousands of seemingly unsalvageable marriages develop deep love again.

For many of them, their deep love for their children motivated the effort to repair their marriage. Because they knew their children craved and needed two loving parents, they pushed aside their anger and hurt long enough to find the help they needed.
Recently, a woman we helped posted this on Facebook, "This morning as [my young daughter] and I were saying our prayers on the way to school, she said, 'Jesus, thank you that Mommy & Daddy love each other and go on dates'. If ever I doubted choices in forgiveness, in that moment all doubt was gone. Lots of thanks, first to God and also to [our organization]."

The greatest thing any parent can do for a child is to love his or her spouse.
The most selfish thing a parent can do is to end their children's current family because they decided they love someone else. Thousands end their marriages and put their children through pain because they feel that the new person they love is more important to them than salvaging the family they have. Sadly, they have plenty of Linda's who cheer them on, telling them that their children will get over it. They emphasize happiness over responsibility. They forget that happiness always roots itself in what is happening and, therefore, constantly changes with time. They sacrifice the essential for the superficial, the life-long for the here and now.

Consider the Children's Future
It happened over 50 years ago, but he lives it again when he tells it. You see it in his eyes and hear it in his voice. At five, he was the youngest of a large farm family. One day his parents gathered the children in the front yard and announced their divorce. The father moved several feet away from the mother and then told the children that each should walk to the parent they wished to live with. At five, my friend had just moments to make a decision he would live with for the rest of his life.

Cruel?

I think so. So does my friend. Over a half-century later, he mourns that day.
A parent contemplating divorce today might shrug off the story, convinced he or she will be much more considerate. However, even if the process follows a kinder route, it still results in a child living with one divorced parent (or neither) and having less access to the other. That experience – just like every other major experience in life – affects the child forever.
As difficult as it is after divorce to balance weekends, summer vacations, and holidays when children are young, it gets tougher when they marry and have their own children.
Even their weddings can be emotional earthquakes. I officiated many weddings where bride and groom struggled with which parent and his or her new spouse would enter when, sit where, and a hundred other "little things" that matter. Even when the parents and their new spouses act civilly, stress abounds. When one or more acts out because he or she feels treated with less honor than their former mate, calamity erupts. Too often, I have consoled a weeping bride on what should have been the happiest day of her life.
In our workshops that help troubled couples salvage their marriages, we hear regularly, "I have so much pain from my parent's divorce. I'm determined I won't do that to my children. We will figure how to solve our problems and make our marriage good. I owe that to them."

Truly Make the Effort Before Divorcing
If your marriage is in trouble, would you for the sake of your children make an effort to save your family? Not just save it, but to make it a good, healthy, loving marriage?
You can find wise and caring people who will help you work on your problems. If you decide to search for one, be sure to ask how strong their values are in helping you save your marriage. Unfortunately, not every counselor or helper believes in saving marriages: Some take the easier route and advise divorce if your situation seems too difficult. Avoid those people. Find people who care and who do not give up if your problems take effort to overcome.